And if you are the parent reading this, exhausted from fighting the same battle: Stop trying to fix the child. Start looking at the triangle.
Have you noticed a pattern in your family that repeats no matter what you try? Drop a 👨👩👧👦 in the comments or send me a DM. Let’s talk about changing the dance. Krissy Lynn is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in systemic therapy, adolescent behavior, and parental coaching. This post is for educational purposes and does not replace professional clinical advice. familytherapy krissy lynn
We don’t solve everything in 50 minutes. But we leave with one new tool—a different sentence to use at dinner, a rule about interrupting, or a signal for “I need a timeout.” If you are the “Identified Patient” in your family—the one everyone says is the problem—please hear me: You are often the scapegoat for a system that has lost its balance. Your symptom (anger, silence, addiction) is often a signal that the family is asking for repair. And if you are the parent reading this,
In enmeshed families, no one knows where one person ends and another begins. I teach families to say: “I feel scared when you don’t come home on time” instead of “You are so irresponsible.” The goal? Stay connected without losing yourself. Drop a 👨👩👧👦 in the comments or send