Destroyed: Sperg

You are not destroyed. You are in repair. And repair is not failure—it's the bravest thing a person can do.

Whatever got destroyed—was it a friendship? Your reputation in a certain group? Your confidence in social situations? Your belief that you could mask well enough to be "normal"? Those things can hurt terribly, but they are not you . You are still here. You are still thinking, feeling, and reaching out for help. That is the opposite of destroyed. destroyed sperg

Start with low-stakes social wins. Send a text to one safe friend. Make eye contact with a cashier for one second. Write a post in a supportive subreddit. You don't have to be charming, smooth, or "normal." You just have to show up as the person who is trying, and that is already brave. You are not destroyed

First, take a breath. The word "destroyed" carries immense weight, and the fact you're using it means you're in real pain. Whether someone said this to you, or you're saying it about yourself, let's pause the self-blame and the shame spiral. Whatever got destroyed—was it a friendship

If you are in crisis or feeling like harming yourself, please reach out to a mental health professional or a crisis line in your area. You matter.